The results are in!
Your #1 Momentum Booster is:
BOUNDARIES
You, my friend, are a force to be reckoned with.
You've got big energy & big ideas, and you're not afraid to use 'em! It's no wonder so many people count on you to get things done - you're a problem-solver, a natural leader, and you tend to go above-and-beyond.
But you've gotten used to being the one doing ALL the things for ALL the people.
All you need for a giant momentum boost is to put some loving BOUNDARIES around those precious, limited resources of yours.
When you stop giving all your time & energy away, you'll be able to direct it intentionally towards YOUR specific goals & values.
Of course, you genuinely want to honor your commitments & support the people in your life. (I get it!)...and you WILL be able to show up for all of that.
But you'll only ever be "giving from a cup with holes in it" as long as you don't prioritize yourself.
Which makes sense because...
...Your #1 Momentum Killer is:
OVERWHELM
Unfortunately, overwhelm can become a habit. So as more & more commitments pile up, it feels more & more normal that "This is how life goes!"
To get outta this cycle, you first have to notice it's your norm, and decide you want a different one!
The truth is, lowering overwhelm doesn't start with delegating tasks or eliminating jobs all together.
It starts with paying more attention to how you want to feel.
Continuing to tell yourself you don't have time or you have to do everything is only keeping that overwhelm habit churning.
So let's get to the fun part and launch your MOMENTUM BOOSTER!
YOUR 3-STEP MOMENTUM BOOST ACTION PLAN
1. NOTICE HOW YOU FEEL
Download this Instant Emotion Awareness Worksheet and get specific!
It's one thing to say "I'm stressed" and call it a day. But for a MOMENTUM boost, you need to get crystal clear on where you're feeling less-than-stellar. (It's always easier to solve a specific problem than a vague one.)
Your answers will guide the actions you take through Steps 2 + 3.
2. DEFINE YOUR BOUNDARY
I know, boundaries - ugh. But WE'LL do them the fun way, promise.
Using what you found in Step 1's worksheet, decide the one boundary that will most serve you first. (Don't worry about telling anyone it yet.)
Consider What would help me feel more of my Desired Emotions here?
Your answer can look like choosing to:
- Release responsibility for something
- Ask for help with something
- Renegotiate a previous agreement
- Redefine an established expectation
- Set a limit on the time / energy you'll give something
Example #1: If the worksheet helped you see "I feel unsupported in my work because I took on our former colleague's projects" and your Desired Emotions include Supported, Confident & Energized...You may choose to renegotiate the agreement made with your team when you initially took the extra work on.
Example #2: If you feel unfocused at home because you're always thinking about chores not getting done, and your Desired Emotions include Present, Content & Comfortable...You may choose to release responsibility for cleaning up after everyone else.
3. COMMUNICATE ONLY WHAT YOU NEED TO
"Setting boundaries" can be a big source of stress, but the truth is, not all boundaries need to be communicated. And if they do, we usually need to communicate far less than we think.
That's because a boundary is NOT a rule you're setting up for someone else to follow. It's a rule YOU are going to follow, for your own good.
When you think of it this way, you can relieve a ton of pressure off another party agreeing to your terms or liking your decision! Instead, you can imagine informing them of your updated Self-Rules.
Sometimes it's appropriate to do this with your words, directly (which, I promise, is totally possible to do with love and/or respect). Other times, you can simply set an Internal Boundary and change your behavior, no explanation needed.
Take a moment to decide now:
- Does anything need to be communicated?
- What is the simplest way I can phrase the change I'm enacting? (see Step 2 bullet points)
- How (and WHEN) do I want to inform X of this updated rule I'm following?
Example #1: I'm going to release responsibility for needing to agree to every favor my sister asks. This can be an Internal Boundary - I do not need to communicate this to her out loud.
Example #2: I'm going to set a limit on the hours I check work email. I'll let my team know, so they can adjust their expectations & email habits. How I can do this with respect but without apology: "I'm setting a boundary for myself around email hours. Feel free to expect responses between 9a-6p."
Meet Kirsten
Hey there!
I'm so happy you're here & I'm honored to support you in skyrocketing your momentum through powerful decision making. 🙌
I specialize in helping people organize their thoughts, hear themselves clearly and take action on what they really want.
If you want to feel great about your choices, I'm here to tell you: You deserve to, and it's totally possible.
Looking for more clarity on where you want boundaries?
I've gotchyoo! Grab the On-Demand Clarity Workshop.
You'll get the exact process I run my private clients through in our kick-off session, which will create instant, authentic, thorough clarity:
- You'll articulate your VISION STATEMENT (so you can stop defining yourself by who you've been and start basing decisions on who you want to become)
- Clarify your EXACT GOALS (I'll even teach you how to do this if you think "I don't know what they are yet!" or "I have too many!")
- And establish your CORE VALUES (so you can focus on what truly matters most to you right now, and let go of what doesn't!)
All that + bonuses on prioritizing & boundaries are yours in
